Won’t you be my neighbor?

by Naomi Pearson. 0 Comments

I don't have any friends in Frederick.

Well, that's not exactly true. My roommate is my best friend from way back in high school. Everyone else is an acquaintance and only passing ones at best.

During my first few months here, I was frantically looking for work, feeling that I didn't have time to socialize. I admit I did spend some time window-shopping downtown and in other parts of Frederick (I was also looking for help wanted signs and turning in applications). In the process, I met many of the propietors of these shops, but while we have become friendly in that context, I'm not sure it would be fair to call them friends.

Other folks, my roommate introduced me to, but still, none of us really socialize -- we only encounter one another as we pass on the street. My neighbors in the apartment building where I live rarely see each other either.

Now, with this job in D.C., I get home at 7 pm, meaning there's even less time to get out and mingle before I have throw my exhausted body into bed (by 9 pm) to be able to get up and function in the pre-dawn morning. And where exactly would I mingle anyway? Notwithstanding St. Pat's, I'm not a bar person and contrary to expectations, while I'm friendly and personable, I'm pretty shy.

In grad school, I spent a lot of time at the Native Student Center , and my social life as an undergrad largely revolved around my roommates and the newspaper staff (I was an editor and writer).

 

I'm not feeeling sorry for myself; I'm fine keeping to myself, but I'd rather be engaged in my community. How does one make friends in Frederick? What do you suggest?

Leave a Reply