Life Through My Lens: Week 8, The “Should’ves”

by Cam Miller. 0 Comments

The phrase “Life Through My Lens” can be interpreted in several ways. This week, my “lens” is not my camera, but my perception about a situation in my life.

“Be prepared.” “Don’t put off until tomorrow that which you can do today.” I’ve heard these sayings over and over, and time and time again, I have ignored them. Procrastination is human nature. After all, who wouldn’t rather go out to lunch with friends than wait all day for the repairman to show up to install a new garage door opener?

Having recently broken my ankle, there are three big things I “should’ve” taken care of, but did not. One is the aforementioned garage door opener. I have been hopping in and out of the car now for at least six months, putting off the repair issue and opting instead to do something more “fun.”

The second big issue I should have taken care of is the networking in my house. For some reason, it stopped recognizing my laptop, and the desktop upstairs is the only one I can trust for paying bills and ordering online. I don’t want to haul the crutches and my injured leg up 16 stairs just so I can pay bills.

Another thing I have put off is installing a handrail on my front steps. There are only two steps, but they are unprotected from the weather, and therefore they catch all of the snow and ice.  My 83-year-old mother has been on me for three years to have one installed. Instead of doing it, I just made sure to assist her at the steps when she visits. Of course, now that I need the handrail, it’s not there.

These problems will be addressed. I have calls and emails and inquiries in to the proper people, so it is just a matter of time. But honestly, I have absolutely no good reason, other than the human nature of procrastination, for not having taken care of them before.

All of this thinking about the “should have taken care of” things got me to thinking about lots of things I should have taken care of – and will. And many of these things are things that all of us should take care of, before they become serious problems.

Obviously, health issues come to mind. When I was filling out the paperwork for my doctor visits, I was asked for the name and address of my primary care physician. Well, I don’t have one. I go to a practice that has many doctors and physician’s assistants who will see me when I have an issue that needs immediate attention, but there is not one doctor in Frederick who knows me, knows my name, and who will sit me down and insist that I get things like a colonoscopy, a mammogram, a bone density scan, a cholesterol check, and so on. Taking preventive measures is important for identifying potential health problems. Better to get them done now, before serious issues arise and it is too late.

Another thing that is important to take care of is to get one’s affairs in order. We don’t like to think about death. Every time I get on a flight, the night before my departure I hurriedly scribble a list for my daughter with the name of my insurance agent, the bank where I have my safe deposit box, the lawyer to contact for my will, my financial information, and the logins and passwords for my email and Facebook accounts. The list needs updating, the policies are not collected together in an organized fashion, the passwords change, etc. While I am recovering, I need to get my affairs in order. I live alone, and my daughter would have a hard time pulling everything together and making sense of it all. I need to do it – now – and then it will be easier to keep current.

Think about your own situation. What “should’ves” come to mind that will rear their ugly heads if you were to become immobile, incapacitated, or—heaven forbid—dead?  Look around, and take care of them now.

While you are making your list, at the top be sure to put letting your friends and family know much you care about them and love them. Remind them often. They are the most important things we all need to take care of, every day.


“Life Through My Lens” is a travel/photography blog written by Cam Miller, copyright 2014


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